Happy and loving marriages require loving and positive actions. Most woman, I would imagine want to enjoy their husbands! Who want to toil in an arduous relationship? The answer is obvious! In relationships, especially marriages, there are many ways to encourage your husband, which will build him up and contribute to a happier life together. It is my contention that a loving wife can easily encourage her husband. A wife’s approval is powerfully vital, and applying the following steps consistently will make a positive difference in your marriage. Listed below are just 86 ways to inspire and encourage your spouse.

1. Communicate with him respectfully
2. Respond to him gently
3. Let him know how important he is to you
4. Try to understand his reasons, even when you disagree
5. Let go of the small stuff
6. Ask for his help
7. Let him help and protect you
8. Tell him you love him
9. Tell him you like him
10. Tell him you respect him
11. Tell him he is the greatest person in your life
12. Give him space for hobbies or quiet time
13. Let him know how much you appreciate him
14. Show him that your respect him and trust him
15. When you go out on dates, do not bring up negative issues or problems
16. Focus your attention on the great things he does right
17. Show interest in what he feels is important in life
18. Show him that you enjoy spending time alone
19. Be happy and positive when he comes home
20. Do not allow any family member or friend to treat him disrespectfully
21. Defend him to any family member who attempts to dishonor him
22. Compliment his efforts above his performance
23. Seek his advice when you seek challenges
24. Set and work on goals together
25. Respect his leadership in the home
26. Be forgiving when he offends you
27. Find ways to show him you need him. Men need to be needed.
28. Do not bombard him with “honey-dos”
29. Quickly admit your mistakes and ask for forgiveness
30. Rub his feet, neck, and shoulders when he is stressed
31. When he wants to talk, actively listen and ask questions
32. Tell him you are proud of him
33. Give advice in a loving manner and do not nag
34. Reserve energy for intimacy
35. Praise him for being a good man
36. Text him love notes during the day
37. Leave him a sweet voice mail
38. Brag about him to others even if he is not there
39. Share your feelings in a concise way
40. Tell him 3 things you appreciate about him and why
41. Honor him and show respect in front of others
42. Help him accomplish his family and personal goals
43. Give him space if he is in a bad mood or doesn’t want to talk
44. Don’t compare him to others, especially in a negative way
45. Tell him thank you for the special things his does
46. Write “I love you” across the bathroom mirror
47. Leave love notes for him to find
48. Work to get rid of the negative things he does not like about you
49. Do not expect him to notice everything you do
50. Consult him before making important plans
51. Let him sleep in when possible
52. Do not criticize his intelligence
53. Initiate sex sometimes
54. Get to the point during discussions
55. Wink at him when you are across the room in public
56. Smile at him often
57. Give him the benefit of the doubt in all situations
58. Try not to quarrel over words
59. Do not call him out of his name during arguments
60. Attack the issue(s) not him
61. Be kind and polite to him
62. Stick to financial goals and do not sneak purchases behind his back
63. Do not blame him for everything that goes wrong
64. When he blows it, don’t throw it back up in his face
65. Be understanding
66. Never argue over money – figure it out in a respectful way
67. Hold his hand when out in public
68. Snuggle close when possible
69. Don’t expect him to read your mind – tell him what you need, think and/or want
70. Check with him before you throw anything of his away
71. Work to stay in shape
72. When you are angry, do not give him the silent treatment
73. Look your best, especially when out in public
74. Be his best cheer leader
75. Acknowledge his successes in everyday situations
76. Focus on his positives
77. Patiently show how you need him to love you
78. Encourage healthy eating
79. Thank him for being who he is
80. Enjoy all the time you have with him
81. Remember to keep humor alive in the relationship
82. Do things he likes sometimes without grumbling
83. Plan a romantic dinner or trip for the two of you to a place he loves
84. Cook his favorite meal and serve him while he sits
85. Treat him like a king – royal, special and beloved
86. If you believe in prayer, pray for him consistently

DocsMusings,

Dr. Dee